When I was a kid 40 looked so different.
In my 20’s it was all about finding myself, learning about the world, and what my options were in it. Will I be a teacher, a 3D animator, or an instructional designer? Will I have kids, find the perfect partner, and what does that look like?
I lived in San Francisco and life was a constant pivot between being an adult, going to college, holding down odd jobs, having different roommates, and a boyfriend who lived on a planet that revolved around him for 9 years too long. Loved to dance, go to happy hour that turned into dinner, and carrying my laundry to my parent’s house.
With zero responsibility, life was good… but it wasn’t sustainable. My parents had plans to leave the country and I needed to grow up.
My 30’s was all about being me. I knew what I wanted and how I was going to take my place in the world. My foundation gave me a platform to grow and build not only my confidence but my village and safety wall. I bought my first home and was so house poor, but I did it! I knew what I wanted and I found my partner who is not only my best friend, but an equal in our home as an active parent. We found a new city, got a home and filled it with two kids. Then to top off the decade I found my dream job and now work for a company I love that lines up with my mission.
I’ve arrived at 40, and I am smiling and grateful for what I do have. I lived past my 20’s and the wild journey of fighting the pull to be an adult in a city that promotes never growing up. So now what?
Now I have the skills and head-space to try and no longer worry about failing, I am ready to run!!!
It isn’t enough to be happy if people around me are suffering and I can’t sit here and see the world move in a direction that isn’t positive. My mission is:
“Make the World a Better Place“
and I use this as a focal point when I plan out my week or ponder if I should do something. It will be a sounding wall when I plan my social events. It will be my light when I am not sure what direction to take. I will use it to determine who is in my village and where I spend my time.
I am so thankful, grateful, and appreciative to have arrived at 40 with all these gifts. I’m now ready to give this gift to others! I started this decade by giving my besties gifts on my birthday. I had a small gathering with my closest friends back home in San Francisco and here in Seattle. I gave them each a necklace to remind them of how special they are to me.
Friends are one of the best gifts life can give you.
Maybe my 50’s will be all about enjoying life and sitting back. Who knows…. maybe that is when the midlife crisis starts. For now I am excited about my 40’s! It is a big place to be, and a lot is on my shoulders. It is my responsibility to leave this place better than how I found it and there is no better a time to make that happen, then now!
Look out world, Liana is ready!!! * L